We are passionate about using our platform to raise the voice of our network; from our mentees and mentors, to our ambassadors. During the writing of memoir and manifesto, Brown Girl Like Me, author Jaspreet Kaur met members of our community to learn more about their experiences.

Here, our West Midlands ambassador, Simran, shares a personal letter that was written following this special opportunity.

We'd like to say a big thank you to Simran for writing this letter, and allowing us to share it with you here.


Dear Brown Girl Like Me,

We all go through daily life struggles which we feel afraid and unable to talk about. We are afraid people may judge us or punish us in a way we would not be able to handle but it's vital to share your problems with someone you can trust. This could be parents, friends or teachers. We are different people yet with similar lives, facing similar problems.

I am writing to tell you that you are not alone. We are in this together.

As the descendents of strong South Asian people who have faced immense discrimination, it's very important for us to be proud of our culture, our people, our history, and of ourselves. Therefore, it is important for us to stand up for ourselves when someone uses a stereotype or any form of discrimination and racism against us. Don't ignore it because it will just encourage them to say it to other people, leading them to spread negative and wrong thoughts and stereotypes about us to society. We can't let this happen, whether it be in the classroom, a workplace or even in your own home. We must stand up for ourselves.

In Jaspreet's book, Brown Girl Like Me, she explains how your name has a historical significance so when someone starts giving you a nickname or mispronounces your name, Jaspreet says, "these actions eradicate the meaning behind them". So, do not feel ashamed to correct people if they say your name in a way you prefer.

So, Brown Girl Like Me, don't forget that some stereotypes also exist within the brown, South Asian community itself. Growing up, many brown females have felt the gender inequality between the brothers and sisters of the family. We need to show how it is not okay for brown boys to relax and watch TV while the brown girls are busy doing all the domestic work. It's not okay to think the sons of the family are better than the daughters just because they are meant to carry on the family name.

Strengthening our voices starts by disagreeing with what we believe is wrong, slowly fighting to put the message forward. My final piece of advice is to always be proud of who you are and to keep a balance between the eastern and western societies.

Thank you,



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